Kawanku kahwin lagi..

Hmm, topik nih maybe regularly and always being discussed by bnyak lagi blog yang lain, but just wanna share thoughts of the day, based on aku punye experience today. (Sunday, 27 July 2008)

Kahwin? Topik yang kalau boleh kawan-kawan yang secareer dgn aku try to avoid. But given our 'unavoided assumption' or better known as 'rules of ibu jari';being Malay, Muslims, pressure from parents, desakan from the spouse to be, peer pressure and basic instinct (naluri la), this is the topic that we cannot run away just like run Forrest run..

Memang kenduri Nurul (classmate, Kiss Ass 1999 - 2000) dgn pasangannya, Padil tadi best. Memang pengantin itu sangat cantik. Sharing moments with all ex-classmate yang lain, aku rase teruja. Biaselah, jumpe kekawan lame. Memang kitorang selalu berjumpe, at least once in 4 months la..Semoga Nurul berbahagia dengan pasangannya..

Kahwin? Hmm, kahwin or marriage is amongst bende yg diemphasizekan di dalam Islam. Tapi tuh korang bleh carik sendiri info die. Aku rase aku bukan individu yang qualified enough to discuss this in terms of religous perspective. But every individual got their own opinion. Lets see hows each individual opinion, that been playing in aku punye mind. Eventhough the words maybe brief and simple, aku still remember these:

1)ko kene kawin doh (dough kut, aku tak tau nak eja camane). Marriage is an investment. (quoted dari kawan aku, internal audit)

Yes, marriage is an investment. There is an article, published in Yahoo website, that marriage is an investment. Do not misunderstand, investment here bukannye membawa maksud kite kene cari wife yang kaye or stable to generate return to wife, bukan. Investment here presribed as the wealthy on sharing of income, and our responsibility in managing our and our spouse income. We tend to save for our future, and be more responsible in doing our spending (yelah, dah wife tanye psl expenses kite, sah2 la lepas kawin kite kene transparent --> the result is kite tak ah spend bebender merepek banyak sgt, logik?).

2) Aku kawin sbb aku punye priority mmg aku cintakan die. Ko lain Azrie, short target ko skarang lain. (Quoted dari kawan aku yang balik overseas, terus kawin dgn awek die)

Betul, priority play lot of roles in determining our future, betul tak Mijie (bukan name sebenar)?Priority korang aper plak? aku tak tahu, question tadi amat general.Diberi few readers here kawan2 aku, aku cube linkkan priority yang logik2 jelah.

a)Career? Maybe. When we talk bout 2 b crazy, eh silap..bout career, always related to pursue our study to the higher level(e.g post grad, professional,master), to be promoted up to certain level (e.g senior, manager, partner, asst manager)..

b)Enjoy? Relek2 dulu, enjoy dulu..money saved kite g travel dulu..weekend kite mesti ade life..futsal, karaoke, wayang, wayang, wayang, Galaxy, Shopping, make up kereta, hmm..cakap psl enjoy, mmg tak habis..So, the result is=kumpul duit utk enjoy mmg takkan cukup..kalau nak enjoy, gune je duit yang ade, takyah bazir2..
c)Beli kereta? Rumah? aku nak letak under what category nih..sbb ini priority yang bagus..provided good analysis has been made, financing ok, good return, benefit > cost, mmg bagus kalau jadik priority..

d)Bercinta..bercnta dulu, baru kahwin..tgh carik awek/balak, kene pilih betul2 nak buat isteri/suami. hmm, betul2..

e) Kahwin..kumpul duit few years, pastuh kahwin..

Ape sebenarnye priority/target aku? aku rase priority aku berubah2.Hmm, korang ade target tak? At least, kite kene ade target. Ok lah, aku mengaku target aku more on career, sambung studies. But kenape kite tak achieve the above target concurrently? Maksud aku, kite achieve target a, (career), and kite achieve target d, (bercinta), as well as kite achieve target e, (berkahwin)...senangkan? Impossible..Sebab ape, susahkan?

Aku rase, basic problem here ialah 'SHORTAGE'..shortage on money, sbb tuh tak leh kumpul duit..shortage on qualification, sbb tuh nak at least be more competitive in the respective industry, still nak sambung belajar or be promoted to high level..shortage of happinessm sbb tuh nak enjoy dulu..shortage on supply of qualified wife/husband, sbb tuh nak carik betul2 sbb nak kahwin bukan bende main2..shortage on richness/stability, sebab tuh nak beli umah buat investment, beli kete coz car is necessity/satisfaction..

So, to achieve each of our target, aku rase kite kene fikir sbb ape kite nak sgt2 achieve target/priority kite tuh..and which shortage we want to overcome..and is it worth?

Ok lah...saje jer...bukan aku pike lame sgt pun nak tulis nih...jangan la serius sgt..saje je..